There is a difference between secrecy and privacy. Being transparent does not mean that everyone gets to know EVERYTHING about you and the day-to-day happenings of your life. Tell people things that matter, that they need to know based your commitment to them. There is a difference between running and/or hiding and retreating and/or taking necessary time and space for healthy boundaries. Sometimes you communicate the need for space in advance, sometimes you communicate it when in a “better” place/space to verbalize it more congruently and fluidly.
We can express ourselves and offer out insight that might hopefully shed light for the other person. With some people you may feel called to share the nitty-gritty details because they’ve earned them, and we never owe people that are consistently harmful to us a full-blown play-by-play explanation or any explanation at all.
Disclose what you feel called to share, when you feel called to share. Your life, your rules. Just make sure within your rules are the Universes’ (G.O.D.’s) rules of kindness, LOVE, and respect. That has to be what you give yourself first, then communicate that way with others. Sometimes, even then, they will fail to understand, respect, or have any empathy or compassion–this is not your problem and it has absolutely nothing to do with you–at all. It has everything to do with them.
All you can every do is be true to your own soul, allow your spirit to help to guide you. Anything done with the intention of LOVE and kindness is pure, true, and right; though the receiver may not filter it that way. Always be authentically you and understand yourself first. You are the one you owe that to, always. Pursue LOVE. Pursue truth. Know the depth and breadth of yourself and show up as that person–share the details of your life with those that earn such a privilege.
By Melissa Reese